Oh, those bad boys.

I think I must be trying to channel my inner Carrie Bradshaw with this blog now, but I don't think it will be nearly as entertaining or successful as hers by any means. I saw a post from someone on an Ecard and it made me think if there was any truth behind what was written.

It really made me think. I had to think pretty hard since that was a long time to remember back to and my memory is shitty as it is. In the days of recess, show and tell, and cooties is when this phrase first was presented to a young, innocent girl. I can recall being told this exact thing by multiple people. That was how you showed you cared because it wasn't cool to pick a flower for a girl or write a boy a note back then. Heaven forbid you let any of your friends know that you liked one of those cootie infested boys running around on the playground. This was the perfect starting point for all those bad boys to start to grow into their bad habits. A little 'love tap' here and there, a pull of a pony tail, a few harsh words that were really sprinkled with love started the attraction of the girl to the dreaded 'Bad Boy'.
    How could we not be attracted when we were told that his mistreating was really a sign of affection? I mean, the shy boy who never says anything to his crush gets over shadowed by the kid that throws dirt in her face. Romantic, eh? To look back on it, we were doomed from the start. As we aged the bad boys only got worse. Once cooties were out of the picture it was a lot easier for us to latch on to them even with our friends watching. The silent, brooding type that sat in the back of the classroom and only talked to a select few were the top choice for many a high school girls. Or you had the boy in a band. Not band, but in a band. Nothing said rebellion to your parents like dating a guy in a hard rock band. Ok, not really. I didn't really know any of those kind of guys. There were the guys into pot, the ones that drank on the weekends and went to the 'cool' parties, and the dark, mysterious boys that you never really knew what they did.
    All those nights spent crying over that guy that never returns your call, disses you in front of his friends, or lies about where he's going or been all came from the playground. I mean, it can only mean that he really likes you when he does this to you, right? That's what they said. Well, at least until you get older. Then it turns into "You deserve better than this, you need a guy that will treat you how you should be treated."

  WTF? Really? When did the tables turn? I thought that it meant they liked you when they treated you like shit? No? Damn. As we age, the bad boy becomes even more intriguing. They meant adventure, excitement, and unforgettable nights. Or so you thought. Usually, they just meant that you ended up without a date Friday night because he was actually out with someone else instead. The same lines that lured you in worked on another unsuspecting girl that was hypnotized by the bad boy allure. It was hard to resist sometimes. There was that twinkle in their eye, a slight little smirk or just the way they dressed that pulled you in like a bee to honey. They disguised their stingers rather well.
      However, I will give the bad boys some credit for something. Through all their manipulation, lies and deceit they really do bring a true appreciation for the nice guys. I think I can safely speak for the majority of the female population when I say that the bad boys are merely a phase. When we are younger we want to have fun with the bad boys and get all the partying out of our system, but when it comes to settling down....
     A bad boy just won't do. Unless, it's a reformed bad boy who realized his horrible ways and was looking to redeem themselves from their previous behavior. You see, when a girl looks to the long term they don't want adventure and excitement, they want stability, security and someone responsible. This can only come from those nice guys that were over looked. Unfortunately, many of those nice guys have turned bitter from being disregarded previously for their adversary. I will take this moment to apologize profusely for our ridiculous behavior. Seriously. I'm sorry, nice guys.
    Anyway, it is true that nice guys do finish last, but that doesn't have to mean it's a bad thing. I guess to put a positive spin on it, wouldn't you rather be appreciated once they finally get priorities in order, than to be tossed away because they really don't understand the true appeal of the nice guy? In my dating adventures the last couple of years, I found I couldn't get away from the bad boy no matter how hard I tried. When you no longer want them it seems like they are in an endless supply. The attractiveness of what the nice guy could offer was all I could see and all I really wanted, but like I mentioned above once bitten twice shy they say....The hiding spots seem to be endless for the nice guys. That, or there were other girls who learned their lesson long before I did and took one out of the population. I'm throwing an apology out there again on behalf of the stupid girls out there (myself included) who took a little while to see the true value that you guys hold. I really hope that the bitterness doesn't get to your core and harden you too much. You lucky gentlemen are the ones that they choose to start a life and family with, share lifetime adventures with, and the ones they grow old with. If you ask me, I think you guys are the true winners. Yes, it may take a little bit of time for us to realize that we were all wrong, but in our defense it was ingrained into us from the beginning. So please, don't hold that against us. Or rather, against those who don't know what gems you gentlemen truly are.